Assembling a crew of helpful friends and family is key. Start by making a list of tasks you’ll need help with and then think of all the family members, friends, neighbors or fellow congregants at your house of worship who can be a reliable source of support. You may want to identify a family member or friend who can take the lead in organizing what needs to get done and who will do it. Here are some tips for getting the support you need.

Call for help.  If you’re in the thick of doctors’ visits and are feeling overwhelmed, the laundry should be the last thing on your to-do list. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Often friends and family want to help but don’t know what to offer. Most friends would gladly deliver a meal, do household chores or provide transportation.

Seek emotional support. Support can often come from established cancer organizations, such as the Cancer Support Community (cancersupportcommunity.org). Support groups can help you avoid feelings of isolation and allow you to share your experiences with other members, as well as your collective wisdom.

Use technology. To update friends and extended family, consider setting up a website. You’ll receive support and inspiration by encouraging visitors to post messages and volunteer for tasks, and they’ll be able to stay in the loop. Sites such as CareCentral, CaringBridge, Lotsa Helping Hands, Share the Care, The Patient/Partner Project and the American Cancer Society's Circle of Sharing make it a snap to create a free website that will help connect friends and family. If you’re not web-savvy, ask a friend or family member if they'd be willing to do this for you.

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