I agree to a large extent with your sentiments.
For someone in remission or under treatment, I wonder if a useful attitude is that cancer can be thought of as a form of aging, perhaps "accelerated aging". In other words, we are all going to die, but having cancer you feel you may be closer to the end, but that does not make you somehow different from others. Or you may not be closer to the end we don't really know, especially in this age of breakthroughs. But you are aware of risk factors whereas people with no diagnosis can cultivate an illusion of immortality. Maybe we mourn that loss of the illusion and I know it can interfere with day-to-day contentment - but learning to live with the feeling of risk can also open doors to understanding or relating to life in a deeper way that perhaps enriches our lives and the lives of people we touch. Spiritual growth is a challenging road -- the term "survivor" may just be a bandaid or a tonic that accomplishes very little.