Chemo Brain: A Breast Cancer Survivor's Commentary

Started by anonymous, September 24, 2015
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anonymous

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September 24, 2015
Chemo brain. I am glad the “experts” have finally decided that chemo brain is real. Gee, thanks. What were they thinking? I mean, let’s put harsh chemicals to kill the cancer in our bodies, call it chemotherapy, add a few steroids to help manage side effects, possibly remove hormone-generating organs like the ovaries and uterus if they aren’t already shut down by the chemo, and then conclude for a few years with some medications that suppress any poor hormones that might be left.

After that, let’s turn around and try to believe that none of that impacts the organ called the brain? In a previous post, I mentioned I can’t donate a kidney because of cancer, but hey, maybe the kidney got hurt by the cancer or the chemotherapy but the brain came through in shining glory? Yeah, sure. Ha.

Don’t get me wrong: Chemotherapy has saved and extended many lives, including my own. Chemotherapy is a good choice in a bad situation — cancer in the body. I am just frustrated because I sometimes don’t feel like I think like my old self. Did that make sense? My brain doesn’t feel as competent as it did before I had cancer. My communication skills have deteriorated. Words come out of my mouth that don’t match the thoughts going on in my head. I forget stuff, sometimes quite a bit of stuff. There's clumsiness. There is a mental and physical fatigue that wasn’t there before.

It could certainly be argued that some of this stuff is just age-related or maybe early onset of dementia or some other physical diseases, but for me, it sure seems like the timing matches suspiciously with the chemotherapy. It is too much of a coincidence. If it looks like a rose and smells like a rose ...

Again, don’t get me wrong: I am grateful to be alive. I am happy that my hair (most of it, anyway) has grown back. I am trying to help others and to enjoy my life. I actively pray. I actively practice gratitude. I actively choose to slow down and live in the moment. I distract myself when I need to. I rest when I am too tired to go on. I work with my hands when I feel anxious. I use any and all coping tools available to me. I am, in fact, coping. Most days I cope quite well, really.

People say, “Oh, you are so brave and strong. Look at what you’ve been through — surviving cancer twice.”

Yes, I am still here. No, I am not brave and strong. I did what I had to do. I got through my cancer. I am not some brave war hero. Cancer is a disease. I really don’t like it when people who don’t understand try to glamorize it. Maybe they are just trying to be nice. I certainly am not a courageous soldier. In fact, sometimes I just feel like damaged goods or even one of the walking wounded. There are no medals for that. I am just grateful to be here still participating in life.

Some days or some moments, it doesn’t feel like enough. Am I being greedy? Maybe. Maybe deep down on some days at some moments, I still want my old life — or rather, my old self — back. Sometimes I get tired of coping. Sometimes I get tired of having to cope. I guess everyone has stuff of some kind to cope with. Don’t get me wrong: I know I am still me. I still feel like me, but it is a different me. Do you ever feel this way? What helps you cope with chemo brain?
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barb

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September 29, 2015
I have been cancer free for eight years and still suffer from Chemo brain, I have learned so many techinques to help with my memory, one of them is I write everything down, such ass doctor's a[ts and other very important dates, and I also have my mom help me keep records of my meds and other items that i need to keep track of, and the other thing I learned to live with if I cannot remember something right away it will come to me, it is good to tell some really close friends and family members about your memory and they can hep you out when you are having a day that it is harder to remember, this is what i do and it really has helped me cope.
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September 29, 2015
Thank you for putting into words so many feelings I've thought and felt. I actually went to a neurologist recently to make sure I wasn't losing my mind. I can't recall things like I used to. I can never remember the name of movies I've just seen. I struggle with "words" so often. I hate trying to sound intelligent at work meetings. I find myself not saying much for fear that something ridiculously dumb is going to come out of my mouth. Thank you for sharing this with me. You're right, doctors don't want to acknowledge that it exists. I feel so much better reading everyone's posts. I need to check out the book someone mentioned. We need to realize that it is a result of all the chemo drugs our system had to endure. I know I'm lucky to be alive, but I do miss my old body and brain!
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