Article Talk: Mitigating the Hurt When Friends Withdraw

Started by angry wife, June 27, 2019
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angry wife

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June 27, 2019
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When my husband was diagnosed, most people stopped talking to us or having anything to do with us. This was not only friends but family as well. since then it has been just me and him. He has been out of treatment since December and people still don't come near us.
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Julie55

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June 27, 2019
I was overwhelmed with the help I received when I was first diagnosed. It would bring me to tears...People that I hadn't kept in touch with for years reached out to help me in anyway they could. A friend that I've considered as my best friend since I was 12 years old was there for me throughout my chemo treatments. A year later I felt like I rarely heard from her. I would contact her to get together and got shot down so many times that I now don't ask. Currently, I'm kind of waiting for her to reach out to me. When we do get together, things are same as usual, but it hurts me that we don't get together as much as before. I don't know if it's b/c of the cancer diagnosis or not. I know she was terribly upset with the news and would cry with me when she'd take me to treatments. I don't know what to do. She could possibly be having personal issues of her own, but I know she would not share with me thinking I have enough on my plate. I am at a loss on how to handle this. I think about it all the time and want our old normal relationship back. It hurts so much.
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Kathy in Florida

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July 01, 2019
Unfortunately, I lost two close friends during my treatment. Both were there, and extremely helpful, during my mastectomy and first round of chemo. Then they disappeared. That's been 7 years ago, and I still am a little bitter about the experience. However, I try to focus on the positives....my brother and grew closer, for example. Plus, I'm NED. I'm sorry for the loss, and the losses experienced by others who have posted. But we move on. It's all we can do. I have to accept that some people just can't deal with the big "C," for whatever reason. And then I have to let them go.
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