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A very heartfelt article, very touching and brought back memories. So many challenges going through the "journey" of a loved one's cancer, so so hard to accept with hindsight often stimulating a desire to go back and do or try something better or different. The heartache of helplessness, the sadness of those little palliative medicines from the drug store that were all we could do, wishing we could shake the doctors into turning over every stone, search every corner of every research lab for something that might change the outcome, wishing we could light a fire under the medical research funding to put money where it matters, not into superficial things or wars or imaginary fears. Cancer is the real terrorist, once that entered our lives with the Russian Roulette blood test every month, a lot of the political rhetoric of fear we hear every day was revealed as gratuitous. The wear and tear of caregiving is immense but we must ignore it or medicate it while in the battle to marshall our forces to the bitter end. In the aftermath, there is a lot of healing needed, physical, emotional, spiritual. It can be sometimes hard to hold on to the love as other emotions rampage through the healing process, but I believe that is the best answer we have, hold on to the love. I don't know if there is such a thing as healing, but the love is what mattered and will matter and give significance. I hope you continue to move toward peace and grace and surround yourself with helpful resources, such as bereavement groups or whatever speaks to you. Apologies if this sounds over-dramatic, venting a little myself :) All the best, -SB
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