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March 16, 2007 – Elizabeth Whittington
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March 16, 2007 – Marc Silver
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March 16, 2007 – Curtis Pesmen
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March 16, 2007 – Kathy LaTour
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March 16, 2007 – Jamie Spencer
Targeted Strike
March 16, 2007 – Elizabeth Whittington
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The Weight Gain Mystery
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Deadly Accuracy
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Surfer Wisdom
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Letters from Our Readers
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Message from the Editor
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www.komen.org
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Stowe, Vermont
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March 16, 2007 – Elizabeth Whittington
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March 16, 2007 – Elizabeth Whittington
Liver Cancer: A Global Epidemic
March 16, 2007
A History of Alternative Cancer Cures
March 16, 2007
Guys with Gumption
March 16, 2007 – Marc Silver
What is a Proton?
March 16, 2007 – Katy Human
Web Exclusive: The Biology of Cancer and Aging
March 16, 2007 – Elizabeth Whittington
Web Exclusive: Can Liver Cancer Be Found Early?
March 16, 2007 – The American Cancer Society
Web Exclusive: Protection from Health Fraud
March 16, 2007 – Elizabeth Whittington
Help for the Older Patient
March 16, 2007 – Elizabeth Whittington
The Emotional Toll
March 16, 2007 – Charlotte Huff
Dangerous Exposure
March 16, 2007 – Jennifer M. Gangloff
An Integrative Plan
March 16, 2007 – Jo Cavallo
Medical Miracle or Spontaneous Remission?
March 16, 2007 – Elizabeth Whittington
Resources: Guys with Gumption
March 16, 2007 – Marc Silver
Clearing the Five-Year Insurance Hurdle
March 16, 2007 – Curtis Pesmen
Making Lemons into Champagne
March 16, 2007 – Kathy LaTour
Heart Health for Childhood Cancer Patients
March 16, 2007 – Jamie Spencer
Targeted Strike
March 16, 2007 – Elizabeth Whittington
The National Cancer Institute's CAM Agenda
March 16, 2007 – Jeffrey D. White, MD
Physical Activity and the Cancer Patient
March 16, 2007 – The American Cancer Society
What Really Helps
March 16, 2007 – Lori Hope
The Age Factor
March 16, 2007 – Charlotte Huff
Men Behaving Boldly
March 16, 2007 – Marc Silver
Liver Cancer: More Cases, More Causes
March 16, 2007 – Jennifer M. Gangloff
Report Incites Controversy After Breast Cancer Decline Linked to HRT Use
March 16, 2007 – Emma Johnson
Prescription for Trouble
March 16, 2007 – Jo Cavallo
What Five Years Really Means
March 16, 2007 – Curtis Pesmen
Hazardous to Your Heart
March 16, 2007 – Jamie Spencer
The Weight Gain Mystery
March 16, 2007 – Noble Sprayberry
Deadly Accuracy
March 16, 2007 – Katy Human
Surfer Wisdom
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Letters from Our Readers
March 16, 2007
Message from the Editor
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Having a Ball
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Help Me Live: 20 Things People with Cancer Want You To Know

Help Me Live tells caregivers and friends what patients need.

BY Kathy LaTour
PUBLISHED March 16, 2007

This is not a new book, but I'm glad someone sent it our way because I needed it. Even though I am a 20-year survivor, I needed to be reminded about what people in the throes of cancer need, and Lori Hope’s book is perfect.

Hope wrote the book after her own lung cancer experience to help caretakers and friends understand more fully that a thoughtless word or gesture—innocent as it may be—can cause remarkable pain. She interviews survivors and professionals about specific issues of cancer, such as the cancer patient’s right to decide when and how to tell people.

Each of the 20 chapters starts with a quote, making the book read very personally. in each chapter she tells the stories of survivors and the issues they confronted with partners, family, friends and coworkers. My favorite chapter quote—“I am more than my cancer; treat me kindly, not differently”—was a wake-up call for me as I helped a friend who suffered a recurrence. I was gently reminded that my friend values her independence and my insistence to do things for her is not helping. But asking her to call me when she needs me is helping.

This book is not just for its intended audience of friends and caregivers, but for cancer patients too. in part, it affirms the cutting comments we made when Uncle Jack said something tasteless and painful. But in addition to reminding me of many challenging people in my journey, the stories also revealed ways I could have handled them a little better.

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