Hi Elizabeth,
I live in Florida but the two sites other people recommended are good for finding buddies with Stage IV. I too am Stage IV, diagnosed at age 37 with mets to liver, some lymph nodes, and some other "non-essential organs." I went through two round of FOLFOX, some FOLFIRI after a reaction to FOLFOX, 2 Sirs Spheres, and 3 surgeries. The FOLFOX and Avastin really helped get rid of tumors to my liver but the Sirs Spheres brought me down to just a few and made surgery possible. I was on Xeloda and Avastin for about 8 months until my CEA started going up again in Jan of this year. I was getting less Xeloda than when I first started because of terrible foot and stomach problems. A tumor had regrown in my liver. Chemoemoblization in July seems to have killed it - it was small. Now I decided to go on Erbitux and Irinotecan. It is supposed to really work well if your tumor is KRAS normal or wild (not mutated). I have heard from others on mycrcconnection that this combo has brought their CEA down to almost nothing and some people have had NED (no evidence of disease) for many months, even a year. I have not yet had my CEA (which had climbed to 16) or a scan...I will know how it is working next month. But I actually feel so much better on this than the Xeloda. Minimal side effects for me fortunately. Worst problem is the acne rash but that is supposed to mean it is working. I have that managed now.
It is difficult but recently I have accepted that this may very well be a chronic condition for me. I can live with it. Right now, my quality of life is very good...could be better by not having cancer though. I know it is difficult. If you have any questions, maybe I can help. It is a scary road to go down. But my nurses tell me of Stage IV survivors who at are their 8-year survival mark with treatment. I have a friend on weekly dialysis so I guess my life is no worse than his. I try to focus on the good things because no one said life is fair and there are always hurdles for most of us. Good luck!