A Mission-Driven Life

For some people, cancer becomes a motivator. 

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Last year was bittersweet for Debra Thaler-DeMers, RN, OCN, when she was named the Oncology Certified Nurse of the Year by the Oncology Nursing Certification Corporation shortly before learning she had breast cancer, a second primary cancer for the 25-year survivor of Hodgkin’s disease. But, while the diagnosis was difficult, it wasn’t a shock for the 50-year-old mother of two who has dealt with cancer her entire life.

In 1980 Thaler-DeMers was working at a law firm during the day while finishing her law degree at night when she was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s disease. She had barely recovered when her younger sister Terri was also diagnosed with Hodgkin’s at age 22, the fourth family member to be diagnosed with a blood-related cancer.

Thaler-DeMers, pregnant with her first child, traveled back and forth between her home in California and her sister’s home in New Jersey, where she cared for Terri during her initial treatments. When treatments failed, Thaler-DeMers moved to Seattle with Terri to be near one of the few hospitals at the time doing bone marrow transplants. Thaler-DeMers learned the sterile techniques for Terri’s treatment, which was completed in a sterile room environment. “When I was in the hospital with her, Terri kept telling me how good I was at taking care of her. She said I should get paid for it,” says Thaler-DeMers.

Terri died in April of 1986, leaving her sister to mourn and consider her own life choices. “I thought about it while I grieved for my sister,” she says. “Then I enrolled in nursing school.”

Thaler-DeMers graduated in 1991 and has since become an oncology certified nurse with additional certification in end-of-life care and a special interest in fertility and sexual rehabilitation after cancer—an issue that no one addressed for her. “I feel like having been a patient I can relate to what they are going through and anticipate their needs,” she says of her patients at Stanford Cancer Center in San Francisco, where she is an inpatient hematology oncology nurse. 

“I had planned a career in law and becoming a partner and making money and having a great life. It wasn’t a life geared toward giving something back to society. Oncology nursing is not aimed at financial success but doing something positive for patients and helping them have access to care.” Access issues led Thaler-DeMers to become active in the formation of the National Coalition for Cancer Survivorship, where she served on the board for six years. 

When 14-year-old Eli Kahn was 3 he had a puzzling limp and fever. His parents took him to a pediatrician at Johns Hopkins near their Baltimore home, a physician who happened to have a subspecialty in hematology. This led to an early diagnosis of leukemia, says Eli’s mother, Marlene Trestman.

Kahn’s treatment at Johns Hopkins, which included a clinical trial, led to a long-time family commitment to assist the pediatric oncology center with fundraisers and support. So it was logical for Kahn to raise funds for pediatric oncology research at the Sidney Kimmel Comprehensive Cancer Center at Johns Hopkins for the community service aspect of his Bar Mitzvah. He took the idea to his mom who suggested he research ways to raise money that would not involve selling anything or asking people for money. Kahn discovered there was a market for used inkjet and laser cartridges and began asking people to give them to him instead of throwing them away.

“At first people dropped them off at the house and there were only a few and then there was a little story in The Baltimore Sun and I figured out that it would be better if there was no middleman,” Kahn says. Soon a few law firms signed on, as did Johns Hopkins. Kahn easily made his goal for his Bar Mitzvah and decided to continue the project.  

With help from his parents, who are both lawyers, Kahn set up an account with EnviroSmart, the largest recycler of cartridges in the world. This allowed Kahn to send mailers to his clients who then send the cartridges directly to EnviroSmart, which then sends a check to Kahn.

“Every cent goes to Johns Hopkins,” says Kahn. “We endorse the checks right over to them, and if someone wants to make a cash donation, we tell them to make the check out to Johns Hopkins.” Since beginning his project, Kahn has donated more than $23,000 to research. To become part of Kahn’s project, go to and sign up for free mailers to send in your cartridges.  

Glenna Biehler had always taken care of herself. She did monthly breast self-exams and was a mother to two sons before becoming pregnant with her daughter, Molly.

“I noticed after she was born that there was a lump in my breast, and I realized that during pregnancy I had not checked my breasts. It was like somehow it wasn’t an issue then and no one said to be sure and continue self-exams during that time,” says Biehler.

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